Category: the Rant Board
I have just had the worst day of my life. My girlfriend called me and said her parents started their crap again. She's 20 but they treat her like a child. They were throwing a fit about her leaving tomorrow to come up here for the summer. Saying that they didn't know anything about it, when I know for a fact they new every little detail. Here is the part that truly hurts me. Her dad, when refering to me said, "The only reason Meg is going there is because of that God Damn Jesse." Then they proceeded to bash me because I am blind and I wouldn't make a good father. I have never been so insulted and hurt in my life. I have met these people and they know the real me. For them to say that is very disrespectfull. I have so much anger and hurt in me I don't know how to release it. Part of me is mad at Meg for not going off on him like I would if I were her. The other part is upset because I should probably just let this roll off my back. I wasn't raised however to let others shit on me and not do anything in eturn. Ok I just needed to get this out. Thanks to anyone who listened.
yes i know just what you mean. my mum's horrid to me like that.
It seems like they are under the belief that blindness is this offal thing. Hate to tell them that being able to see has nothing to do with the way you love your children.
Amen! My mama is blin,, and she loves me with her life! I'm sorry you had to go through this! I'll be praying for you...
Well you have two simple options. Once she goes there, ask her to stay with you. She's 20, she doesn't need to be with those parents of hers, or take the long diplomatic option of trying your gbest to show them that their fears are unfounded. I have learned in recent months though that when dealing with your partners parents, diplomacy isn't always the best option. You need to have a plan for when the diplomacy breaks down, and you need it to be flexible enough for it to be adapted to whatever situation arrises.
Yeah mine were a little paranoid on me staying with friends that were a hour away. But when we started meeting up at the mall and stuff they got to know them a bit better. Then came the first trip. They were a little nervious as it was my first trip away from home in years, plus it was taking ransit that I had little knowledge or experience on. But when they saw that I was having a blast, that we were a group at all times, that we were safe and that we didn't go into dangerious sections of Philly they were ok with me traveling. As long as I called when I got there, and not to mention left my cell on from the time I woke up til the time 10:00 hit. Not to mention call once in a while to check in. After the 5th visit the calls were few and few and they were very use to me going to see people they knew and trusted.
Thanks everyone for your comments. I think I'm going to try and convince her to stay here. Her dad decided today to complain that I haven't finished school yet. Excuse me for taking my time. lol. They can think what they want but I know what i'm really like.
Man, your best otion is just to prove them wrong. It's their daughter after all and they would be worried and acting like that almost no matter who you are. They use your blindness but if it wasn't that it would be school or drinking or that you don't seem responsible etc. I think their concern is understandable, the way they express it is wrong but I do accept that there might be parents of sighted kids who feel a little strange about them dating a blind person to begin with. It's something they've never been confronted with, everyone is afraid of the unknown and going off on them is the worst thing you can do. If you know what you can do they'll come around and learn to appreciate you in time, even in short time and they are letting her go up there to stay with you it would appear. So it can't be all bad.
So, best of luck, just prove them wrong, that's all you got to do.
Cheers
-B
They are just highly inscure inadequate creatures who use your blindness as a weapon to destroy your self esteem..just see this is a golden opportunity to succeed so hold your head up and go for it!...all the best Alex
best of luck to you, hope everything works out as you want it to.
parents can be right bastards when they want. they can be manipulative and god knows what else. sometimes you just got to turn round and dam well fight!